"These little girls think they know all about life and it's upcomings. NO having a kid ISNT gonna make everything better, it WONT make him stay forever.! it's just gonna bring 101 problems and MORE!! And in the end, your kid is gonna be the one suffering.Think about that before deciding to throw away your life at 16, have a kid & expect your parents to bbysit while you try to live a normal, teenage life." -Excerpt from my fb status
My mother always told me "If he loves you, he'll wait."
I didn't listen, but then again I was 21 when I had Jayden.
When you're of age, do whatever you wanna do.
Til then, DON'T have a kid at 16 and then expect your parents to watch your kid. I'm not saying you're not old enough to take care of your kid. ALL MOTHERS, ALL AGES at one point or another are capable of maturing to nurture their offspring. But eventually, you'll want your freedom, and nights out. And where will you leave your kid then? Who's gonna watch your kid when you finish school, or go to work? Exactly.. your parents. If not yours then his.
I'm NOT one of those people.
I trust NO ONE with my son.
Maybe for a couple hours but that's it.
I've never been away from Jayden for more than a few hours since the day he's been born. I've always slept with him. I have separation anxiety, and I don't think I could ever go a day without him. I'm 22 with a High School Diploma and College education and work experience, and even I have difficulties and hard times.
Don't get me wrong, Jayden is a lucky kid. His parents LOVE him, his grandparents LOVE him, his GREAT grandparents LOVE him, and his UNCLES LOVE him.!
But no one has time to watch him or take care of him except ME. I put my life on hold for him.
I'm not for abortion nor against it.
It's a woman's right to her own body.
But don't punish your child and have them suffer when you can hardly take care of yourself and wanna bring another life into the world.
"If he loves you, he'll wait"
FYI- don't have a kid with someone and wanna name it something he wanted to with his ex. That's just wrong.
My mother always told me "If he loves you, he'll wait."
I didn't listen, but then again I was 21 when I had Jayden.
When you're of age, do whatever you wanna do.
Til then, DON'T have a kid at 16 and then expect your parents to watch your kid. I'm not saying you're not old enough to take care of your kid. ALL MOTHERS, ALL AGES at one point or another are capable of maturing to nurture their offspring. But eventually, you'll want your freedom, and nights out. And where will you leave your kid then? Who's gonna watch your kid when you finish school, or go to work? Exactly.. your parents. If not yours then his.
I'm NOT one of those people.
I trust NO ONE with my son.
Maybe for a couple hours but that's it.
I've never been away from Jayden for more than a few hours since the day he's been born. I've always slept with him. I have separation anxiety, and I don't think I could ever go a day without him. I'm 22 with a High School Diploma and College education and work experience, and even I have difficulties and hard times.
Don't get me wrong, Jayden is a lucky kid. His parents LOVE him, his grandparents LOVE him, his GREAT grandparents LOVE him, and his UNCLES LOVE him.!
But no one has time to watch him or take care of him except ME. I put my life on hold for him.
I'm not for abortion nor against it.
It's a woman's right to her own body.
But don't punish your child and have them suffer when you can hardly take care of yourself and wanna bring another life into the world.
"If he loves you, he'll wait"
FYI- don't have a kid with someone and wanna name it something he wanted to with his ex. That's just wrong.
3 comments:
I think I'd feel the same way with my kid. I don't even like letting people touch my pets.
He is very lucky. :)
And @ your FYI, that's EFFED up. Girls would seriously let that happen? Nonsense.
I definitely agree with you- getting pregnant to keep a guy around is just stupid. Had a friend that did that and the guy ended up leaving anyway and then she was left with a baby to take care of all alone. I just don't understand why teenage girls would want to get pregnant on purpose at such a young age. I just finished reading this book called Not My Daugher about these hs schools who formed a pact to all get pregnant together. They didn't even tell the fathers! And this is based on real life events in Gloucester, MA. Bottom line is I agree with what you're saying. Girls need to THINK first- having a child is a life changing and life long decision!
@ Judy, yeah that is effed up. Some girls will do anything just to be with a guy. Desperate times call for desperate measures. But I can't even trust my son with the inlaws man, I'm over-protective.
@ Lauren, that sounds like an interesting book I might want to look into. Who's the author? And yes, don't get me wrong I used to be one of them. But being through my experiences at 22, I wouldn't recommend being a mother at 16. It definitely is a life long decision, you can't just drop the baby off where ever, when ever.. Then pick it up when you want. Young girls...
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